It’s up to you to get what you want from sex and to avoid what you don’t want. Get to know yourself, and know your body. Know what you want out of the sexual relationship. What do you find sexually appealing? What feels good to you? What are your limits? Know what kinds of things you are willing to participate in and what things you won’t within a sexual relationship.

Create your own Sexual Health Bill of Rights. Here are some examples:

  • I have the right to own my own body.
  • I have a right to my own feelings, beliefs, opinions and perceptions.
  • I have a right to trust my own values about sexual conduct.
  • I have a right to set my own sexual limits
  • I have a right to say no.
  • I have a right to say yes.
  • I have a right to experience sexual pleasure.
  • I have a right to remain celibate.
  • I have a right to be sexually assertive.
  • I have a right to be the initiator in a sexual relationship.
  • I have a right to be in control of my sexual experiences.
  • I have a right to have a loving partner.
  • I have a right to my sexual orientation and preferences.
  • I have a right to have a partner who respects me, understands me, and is willing to communicate with me.
  • I have a right to talk to my partner about incest/child sexual abuse/rape.
  • I have a right to ask questions and receive accurate sexual information.